Why do I keep replaying conversations in my head?
The joke at work drinks, the text you sent too fast. People made to wear an embarrassing T-shirt guessed half the room had noticed. Far fewer had.
Overthinking
Conversations that keep replaying, and worries that won’t wait until morning.
The thing you said at dinner keeps playing in your head. Your mind keeps checking how it landed, because that moment felt exposed. The other person most likely thought better of you than you guess: after a five-minute chat, strangers liked each other more than either of them expected. Giving worries a set time each evening helps some people let go sooner.
Overthinking often feels like solving a problem, yet the same thought comes back in the same words and you end up no closer to an answer. One quick question helps: are you planning something you can do, or going over something you can’t change? Planning has a next step you could take tomorrow, like one message or one call. Going over it again has none. Here you can read why a conversation keeps replaying, test how long thoughts hang on for you, and set a worry time for this evening.
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Do I overthink?
A free overthinking test: eleven quick questions, about two minutes. See how long your thoughts hang on, and how you compare with other adults.
Worry time: put your worries off until later
Write down what’s bothering you, keep what you can do today, and give the rest a set slot this evening instead of all day.